Selling, Moving, Kids, OH MY!
As this month is ending, I’m reflecting on the whirlwind of activity unfolding for me as I close a chapter in my life that kept me safe, secure and pretty darn independent these past seven years.
I listed my home for sale.
Gulp! I am fully committed to making a huge shift in my living and personal life. If I had been asked a year ago if I thought I would be selling my home and moving to another town to blend a family with my partner, I would have said “No way” and scoffed at the idea. I wasn’t ready. He wasn’t ready. We just weren’t there yet. What about our kids? The logical and low-risk taker in me would have been navigating this course in very safe and calm waters. Don’t rock the boat of what worked ‘pretty well’ already.
But ‘pretty well’ isn’t the mantra I am embracing this year.
I’m embracing the “Heck Yes” mindset and untethering myself from the safety of the dock and navigating towards a whole new world where I get to explore uncharted territories for me.
We’re blending a home. Not just our belongings, but his kids and mine. Going from my family of three to a whole big family of six. Introducing his dog to my cat. I think the pet dynamics will be the roughest waters we charter on this journey together.
I could have played it safe and not taken these risks. Stayed in my comfort zone of ‘pretty good’ and anchored in the calm waters of a protected bay of my life but what would this cost me? For me, it would cost me love, joy, happiness and growth.
Instead, I am choosing to focus on what I will gain. Tapping into massive amounts of courage and vulnerability so I can spend consistent time with the love of my life. Hear the laughter of our kids playing games together, take a risk with my business, grow a garden that connects me to Mother Earth. And maybe, even our pets will grow fond of one another. I can always hope, right? These are the rewards of takings risks, being vulnerable, and above all else, holding a vision of a life I want for myself.
What is helping me during this time of transition?
- Leaning into my crew which comprises of my partner, life coach, friends & family, and community
- Casting off the dock with vulnerability and a boat load of courage to navigate the unknown waters ahead
- Being prepared when the waters get rough by creating a list of soul filling activities I can go to when I feel displaced and out of alignment to my values
- Setting a course towards my destination and enjoying the journey as it unfolds
- Designing a vision board of my desires and being grateful for at least one thing each day that gets me closer to achieving them
- Giving myself permission to be uncomfortable with the full range of emotions that float to the surface like happiness, sadness, anxiety, joy, excitement, anger, contentment, fear and many more
Are you navigating through a transition? If so, I have some tips to share with you as you cast off towards your own journey of change.
1. Lean in to your network of friends, family and community
2. Give yourself permission to be uncomfortable with the full range of emotions that will unfurl during this journey
3. And the big one, a whole heap of compassion for yourself because navigating transitions are not always smooth sailing. Often times there are choppy waters, but you CAN navigate through it. Lead with your heart and tap into your courage! It’s there, I promise!
The biggest pitfall I want to share with you is to avoid isolation. Having just one person on your crew spotting for obstacles in your path or trimming the sails to maximize the speed so your journey is sailing towards your desires a fast as possible.
Here are some questions to sit with…
What in your life requires you to untether from the dock of safety and security so you can head towards your desires?
Where will these dreams take you if you allow yourself to explore and navigate towards them?
Who do you want on your crew to help you navigate the waters ahead and ensure your sails are maximized and taking full advantage of the wind?
May your journey through transition be smooth and I am here for you if you want a crew member and if you know someone who could use an extra crew hand on their journey, please share the link to this blog post with them.