Softening as Your Superpower; White Knuckling it No More
Here’s what I believe happens when the gripping state of “I got this” takes over:
- It limits the potential for what’s possible.
- It fosters worry, anxiety, and doubt
- It shuts down play, creativity, and joy
- It feels hard
- It creates push energy to get things done
- It activates control and struggle
- It can lead to isolation
What if there is a fresh perspective for “I got this”? A softer version. One where it embraces and supports you. It allows you to loosen the tight grip on the steering wheel AND you get to still do all that you want to do.
Here’s what I believe happens when “I got this” softens into “We got this”
- It opens up connections with others
- It fosters confidence because you are supported
- It pulls you forward
- It opens up the heart and authenticity flows in
- It unleashes creativity
- It activates ease and flow
- It creates connection
This shift is possible when you notice the constriction and choose to share it with someone else. When I vulnerably share that I feel the constriction of fear, doubt, or control creep up, it instantly releases its hold on me. Just naming it the first step in releasing the white knuckles.
Here are steps you can take to loosen the grip and embrace a softer way of being:
Recognizing that it’s happening. Name it to claim it!
Notice where in your body you’re feeling the tightness
Give yourself compassion for being in it because you’re having a human experience
Be vulnerable by sharing with someone who can hear your concerns and help you brainstorm some ideas that don’t require you to ‘do it all’.
Share briefly your fears, doubts, and obstacles. By briefly, I mean bullet points, not a novel. 🙂
Now shift into listing out all possible ideas to move forward
Select one to focus on and go after it! Everything else is cherry on top If they get implemented!
Share with your person from above and celebrate!
From here, you are empowered to move through the “I Got This” with support rather than white-knuckling yourself through the vortex of fear, doubt, worry, or stress. You’re not alone even if you are the one in the driver’s seat. You’re invited into embracing a softer version.